When it comes to polyamory, there are many poly rules that must be considered so that everyone stays on the same page within a relationship. Everyone’s non-monogamy rules are different and it is good practice to ask another potential partner their poly rules early in a relationship to ensure everyone’s needs can be met and no boundaries are crossed. Nothing sucks more than finding a good match then several months down the road you cannot have your needs met because their poly rule set doesn’t allow for it.
Polyamory is a type of relationship. Polyamory is much like monogamy, in which there is love, enjoying time with a significant other, sex, sharing experiences, and living life with another. The main difference is the fact that a person is sharing their love and life with more than one person. Polyamory is built under the idea that there is infinite amount of love to be given to others rather than a finite amount. One person can love more than one other person at any given time.
Swinging is a part of polyamory, so we’ll go ahead and talk about that here too! While swinging can be with or without emotions involved, my wife and I can’t simply just meet, fuck, then leave. We need to have some sort of connection involved in order to enjoy swinging partners. Some people like swapping partners in the same room, while some people like swapping partners in different rooms, or even just having group sex with everyone involved. The focus of today however will be on how to find swingers near you!
There are many websites online that are great for polyamorous/polyamory dating, OkCupid being a great one! One of the best reasons OkCupid is one of the best is because it allows for extensive searching options, especially if you are on their A-List. However, A-List is not needed. First, you will want to create a great profile, one that separates you from everyone else on OkCupid.
My wife and I sat down today to revisit our list of Polyamorous rules. We realized that many of our rules were outdated, and we had no insecurity issues over any longer. Initially we made our rules set around our insecurities, such as no sleeping with other partners in our bed, no cumming inside other partners or seeing other partners only twice per week. Our rule list went on for pages, almost to the point of not being able to remember so many. Initially we looked around online for guidelines, and found that it may be a good idea to make a polyamory contract. We fill out the contract and have other potential partners sign the contract, just to be sure everyone is on the same page. Our polyamory contract didn’t make it far, as we worked on it for several days then just kept it between us.
Polyamory has received much criticism for having low values, and often misunderstood as a way to basically cheat on a partner and everyone be alright with it. We know this is a complete fabrication of reality and polyamory is much deeper than simply just sex. Polyamory has just as much, if not more, values than a more traditional monogamy relationship has. Lets look at the different values polyamorous groups have.
Asking if polyamory is for you or if maybe a different relationship style is for you is entirely up to…well, you. However, some insight into polyamory and all the different variances of polyamory can be helpful.