When it comes to polyamory, there are many poly rules that must be considered so that everyone stays on the same page within a relationship. Everyone’s non-monogamy rules are different and it is good practice to ask another potential partner their poly rules early in a relationship to ensure everyone’s needs can be met and no boundaries are crossed. Nothing sucks more than finding a good match then several months down the road you cannot have your needs met because their poly rule set doesn’t allow for it.

Swinging is a part of polyamory, so we’ll go ahead and talk about that here too! While swinging can be with or without emotions involved, my wife and I can’t simply just meet, fuck, then leave. We need to have some sort of connection involved in order to enjoy swinging partners. Some people like swapping partners in the same room, while some people like swapping partners in different rooms, or even just having group sex with everyone involved. The focus of today however will be on how to find swingers near you!

My wife and I sat down today to revisit our list of Polyamorous rules. We realized that many of our rules were outdated, and we had no insecurity issues over any longer. Initially we made our rules set around our insecurities, such as no sleeping with other partners in our bed, no cumming inside other partners or seeing other partners only twice per week. Our rule list went on for pages, almost to the point of not being able to remember so many. Initially we looked around online for guidelines, and found that it may be a good idea to make a polyamory contract. We fill out the contract and have other potential partners sign the contract, just to be sure everyone is on the same page. Our polyamory contract didn’t make it far, as we worked on it for several days then just kept it between us.